Carolyn Abbate
Family Law Division Lead,
Arlington Office
Carolyn M. Abbate serves as the Family Law Division Lead for our Arlington office at The Irving Law Firm. Over the course of her career, she has earned a strong reputation for her adept handling of complex divorce, custody, and support cases throughout Northern Virginia.
An Arlington native, Carolyn brings both local insight and legal precision to her practice. After earning her Bachelor of Arts from the University of Virginia in 2004, she went on to graduate cum laude from George Mason University School of Law in 2009. While at George Mason, Carolyn demonstrated academic and professional excellence, receiving the prestigious Family Law Book Award from the Virginia State Bar and the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.
Following law school, she served as a law clerk to the Judges of Virginia’s 17th Judicial Circuit in Arlington County from 2009 to 2010, a foundational experience that shaped her deep understanding of family law litigation and courtroom procedure.
Carolyn’s dedication to client service and her reputation for professionalism have earned her numerous accolades, including recognition in The Best Lawyers in America (2024), Virginia Super Lawyers (2023), and multiple listings as a Top Attorney by Arlington Magazine (2019, 2021–2024).
In 2024, Carolyn was elected to the Board of Directors for the Arlington County Bar Association, where she continues to contribute to the legal community. Clients and peers alike commend her for her clarity, responsiveness, and commitment to helping families move forward with dignity and stability.
Whether negotiating settlements or litigating in court, Carolyn brings over 15 years of focused legal experience and unwavering dedication to each case she handles.
- Law School
Juris Doctor, cum laude, George Mason University School of Law, 2009 - College
Bachelor of Arts, University of Virginia, 2004
- Virginia
- Arlington County Bar Association CLE Speaker
– Contempt & Rule to Show Cause in Family Law Cases: To Reprimand or Remediate?
- Virginia State Bar
- Arlington County Bar Association, Director
- Alexandria City Bar Association
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Passionate, Fierce and Meticulous
I don’t normally post things and typically stay to myself, but I felt convicted as someone out there may be going through the same thing that I have- fighting for custody/ visitation of your child and can use some direction. There’s a lot of great attorneys/ firms out there and I have spent the money hiring and/ interviewing, but I needed a meticulous, fierce and dynamic one just to have a fighting chance. From the moment I met Attorney Rebecca Thacher, I knew she was the attorney for me. I didn’t feel like a client, I was family. What’s crazy about this….. My case was on a Monday morning, but because I retained her as my lawyer so late, I didn’t give her my information until almost after 4:00 on that Friday. She understood my plea for help and was absolutely fierce in the courtroom citing all my concerns and raised crucial points. I came out victorious. I’m a father and I know what it’s like for a child to be used as a weapon, with Attorney Rebecca Thacher you are not in this alone so please ask for help and retain her.
He’ll Fight For You In The Court Until You Can’t Fight AnymoreI got charged with a possession charge and couldn’t afford a lawyer at the time, so the court appointed Fernando to my case. Whenever you choose to get a court appointed lawyer you’re always taking a risk. Because you’re one of who knows how many clients the court has given him with the same problems. But, Fernando never made me feel like another “body” he’d do basic work for while moving to the next. He’s sincere, he listens, and genuinely wants his clients to succeed. He’ll fight for you in the court until you can’t fight anymore. He was truly a blessing and a great lawyer.
I Always Felt That She Had My Best Interests At Heart
Angela Morehouse at the Irving Law Firm represented me in my divorce and for the guardianship/conservatorship of my mother. Her and her paralegal are not only professional but thorough in their representation. I always felt that she had my best interests at heart and could count on her and the firm during my most difficult times. I would highly recommend Angela and the firm and wouldn’t hesitate to retain them in the future if the need arises.
He Is Such A Good Lawyer & Will Fight Hard For You
Mr.Irving literally saved my life. He is such a good lawyer and will fight hard for you. His whole staff is also super nice and professional. I was in big trouble and he managed to get my charges dropped down to a lower offence. I really appreciated his direct straight up approach with me, along with his empathy and understanding. I will never use another lawyer again. He really is the best!.
Has Been Fully Engaged In Working My Case From The Moment He Was Assigned!
A fantastic firm. I have used them for both criminal defense and civil law and cannot recommend them enough. For my civil case I was awarded significantly more than I thought I would be getting and it came in a very timely manner. Fernando, who is handling my criminal case, is amazing. He has been fully engaged in working my case from the moment he was assigned. He is trustworthy, provides honest assessments of situations, and has proven himself invaluable to me. In this very trying time he has also shown that he actually cares about my case and it’s outcome. I’m so grateful he’s on my side and I have recommended him to a number of friends and family members. If you need a lawyer this entire firm seems to be absolutely top notch.
He Delivered On Everything He Promised!
Mark B. was amazing! He delivered on everything he promised. He prepared me for worst case scenario and had a great plan from the beginning. Luckily he was able to get all charges dropped. He’s a very busy guy but never made me feel like he rushed anything. I usually do not like dealing with lawyers, but he’s a rare breed. He’s very professional, personable and likable. Best of all he charged me a flat fee up front. I owe that guy everything. Least I could do is leave a great review. I would definitely recommend him, and use his talents again if needed.
Thanks For The Comfort Of Having A Great Law Firm To Lean On!John Irving and the rest of the team at Irving Law Firm have provided exceptional service for all of my needs on multiple occasions. I would not recommend anyone else. They take the time to explain what will happen, keep you updated, and make sure to provide the best possible help they can. Thanks for the comfort of having a great law firm to lean on!
The Outcome Was Better Than We Could Have Hoped For
John and The Irving Law Firm handled our case with the utmost professionalism and dignity. We are grateful for John’s knowledge and his great reputation in the area. The outcome was better than we could have hoped for and, should we ever have need for legal services again, The Irving Law Firm will be our first call.
The Best Customer Service, Amazing Rates & Knowledge In The Business
John is an amazing lawyer with the experience and knowledge to represent anybody with any issues. I highly recommend the Irving Law Firm to anybody looking for a law firm with the best customer service, amazing rates and knowledge in the business.
Quick To Respond & Are Empathetic To Your Struggles
The attorneys at Irving and Irving are honest, hard-working and will stand by you until your case is closed. They are quick to respond and are empathetic to your struggles. If I ever need an attorney again, they are the only one’s I would trust. Thank you!
Handled My Case Including Guidance Before & During My Time In CourtJohn and his team are great at what they do. I was pleased at how they handled my case including guidance before and during my time in court. I would recommend them to anyone.
Genuinely Wants His Clients To Succeed & Cares For Their FutureMark is an outstanding lawyer. He has been nothing but respectful and professional since the day I have met him. He genuinely wants his clients to succeed and cares for their future. I Would definitely recommend him in the future to anybody who’s looking for a lawyer.
When I Say He Fought For Me He Fought For Me!
I want to say this is the best law firm. Mark is the best very professional and outstanding never lied to me was always upfront with me. He stood up for me in court he’s just awesome I can’t say enough about him. I would recommend this law firm to any and everyone that wants good representation. When I say he fought for me he fought for me!!!!! He always was there when I called or emailed if he was a tab bit busy. He knows what he is doing in the courtroom. Thank you so much Mark.
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